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Tantra
is a spiritual science from ancient India and in its basic essence, very
similar to Taoism from China. Both involve balancing the male and female
energies to create harmony and have an ultimate goal of unity or spiritual
ecstasy, known as enlightenment. Tantra encourages one to explore every aspect
of life. So obviously the study of sexuality was included, not only included
but in fact revered.
Making
love was seen as a gift to God. So there was no repression or guilt attached to
sex. It taught that when a man approaches his beloved he should have a sacred
feeling as if he were going into a temple. The art of sexual love was the
noblest of arts to study. As a young person in ancient India you could go to
the sacred temples and be taught lovemaking secrets by Darkas and Darkinis, the
priests and priestesses of love. The study of sexuality in the west is very
new, whereas relics of Tantric rituals date back nearly five thousand years. So
there is an incredible wealth of knowledge we can draw on and use in our own
lovemaking.
Tantric lovemaking can add to the ways you make
love in 3 major areas:
Firstly:
It gives you ways to reach heightened states of ecstasy and pleasure beyond the
realms of normal sex;
Secondly:
It teaches you ways to open to more love so that your heart opens even more to
your partner and you remember how great it feels to be deeply, passionately
"in love."
Thirdly
it teaches Sacred Sex- ways to transform your lovemaking into a sacred
experience which will touch you on every level of your being, body, heart and
soul
A
male can increase and expand the amount of ecstasy he can have and at the same
time increase the length of time he is able to make love so that his partner
has a chance of reaching higher states. Ejaculation control is an essential
skill to master so that during lovemaking, instead of ejaculating at the first
peak of energy which a lot of men do, they can learn instead to peak with that
energy and use techniques to spread that energy throughout the entire body.
Then as the urgency for ejaculation subsides, continue to make love again until
reaching another peak - much higher than the first peak and then he can use
techniques to peak and spread the energy again. As he Continues to do this,
reaching higher and higher peaks of ecstasy and at the same time his beloved is
feeling that energy and is being warmed up to higher orgasmic states.
Ejaculation control is a skill that can be learned like any other skill. With
the guidance of reading “sexual secrets for men: a man can learn to enjoy more
and more pleasure without the urgency to come.
In
Taoist sexuality writings they say, the woman is like water and the man is like
fire. What normally happens is the water puts out the fire too quickly, the man
is left exhausted and the woman is frustrated. They say there are in fact nine
levels of a woman's orgasm, nine levels that she goes through before she's
fully nourished sexually before her Shakti, her sexual spiritual energy is
fully awakened. Most women have their first orgasm at level four; the man
ejaculates and the other five levels are rarely reached. We as conscious men,
as extraordinary lovers need to be able to make love as long as necessary to
satisfy our woman and at the same time reach higher orgasmic states ourselves.
There
are two exercises, two techniques that will help with ejaculation control. One
is P.C. Muscle exercises and the other is the breath.
These
exercises are also beneficial for women to extend their orgasmic response,
taking more pleasure for herself and to give more pleasure to her partner. The
P.C. muscle is the major muscle of contraction in both sexes for orgasm, so
strengthening it increases sensations of pleasure.
The
P.C. muscle extends from the base of the spine where it is connected to the
coccyx, to the front of the body where it is connected to the pubic bone.
A
good way to locate the P.C. or love muscle for yourself is that next time you
are urinating try to stop the flow of urination in mid stream. This will give
you the feeling of activating the muscle. Then later on in your own private
space practice tensing and releasing the muscle several times so that you get
the sense of how to do it you can know. It is a good idea to incorporate these P.C.
Muscle exercises into your daily routine, associating them with some particular
activity you do independent of your lovemaking sessions. Then these exercises
will become habitual and you won't have to set aside a special time to
practice. For example you can practice while you drive or travel too and from
work. No one will know you are doing it and it can be quite enjoyable.
One of
our friends in fact, Helen said she started doing this every day for a month
while driving to work but unfortunately she had to stop because she said the
sensations were getting so strong that she couldn't concentrate at work because
she couldn't think about anything else at work other than sex and she couldn't
wait to get home to her lover.
And
once a man has a strong P/C he can spread the sexual energy up and through his
body during lovemaking so he can experience wave after wave of peak pleasure
without coming so that he can make love for as long as he chooses, maybe even
hours!
Another
secret is working with your breath. What most men do as excitement builds up is
hold their breath as they get close to climax. If men are to reverse the flow
of sexual energy the best way is to breathe slowly, deeply and rhythmically.
For
women to enhance your own ecstasy you can us the P.C. Muscle and breath
exercise also. You can do this at peaks of energy to spread the orgasmic energy
throughout the body. Another way you can enhance your pleasure is to mentally
trace or visualise the energy running up the inside of the legs through the calf,
the knees and thighs up into the vagina. This is especially good to do if the
mind is wondering off onto other things while making love; it helps focus the
energy.
Some
women need to focus it rather than to spread it and this can amplify the orgasmic
response you already have and is especially good for women who find orgasm
elusive. What you do is to keep squeezing the P.C. Muscles without spreading
the energy. To squeeze the muscles and to feel the charge building up and keep
squeezing the P.C. again. It is important to release and bear down as well;
this also acts as a focus. Playing with these elements of breath, P.C. Muscle,
visualisation, as well as movement and sound you can extend your orgasmic
potential to one, two, three or even more orgasms. All women are capable of
extending their orgasmic potential.
The woman's Shakti is unlimited. The Shakti
is the sexual spiritual energy of which women are the custodians. As the Shakti
awakens so does the priestess, the healer, the empowerer and the goddess of
love within.
A
woman's sexual awakening can propel her on a spiritual path. Men may practice
celibacy and achieve spiritual enlightenment, but according to the Tantric
texts women's enlightenment is facilitated by the electric charge of her orgasmic
nature.
YOUTUBE INTERVIEW WITH DAVID AND KIM
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