As with Jewel Honoring, this is a technique that honors sexual
pleasure but at the same time you bring your open heart, your
love and your consciousness about using lovemaking as a sacrament.
Most of you will have heard about the G-spot so I will concentrate on
teaching you how to awaken it for your partner. The G-spot was named by a
German gynecologist, Dr. Grafenberg.
A book called The G-spot,1 published in 1982, described the location of
this spot. However, the problem around that time was that there was
little understanding of how this area functioned and a lack of knowledge
about how to awaken it. Once the media got hold of the information, men
often got the impression that it was a simple matter of stimulating
this point and the woman would orgasm.
So a lot of men started searching
around the yoni, looking for this magic button.
In most cases they were
disappointed. Very often the man would refer to a drawing of a vagina
in a book, then literally poke around looking for the point. After about
five minutes of this, his partner would start to feel like an object
and get annoyed. He would get frustrated because he couldn’t find it or
couldn’t get her to feel any pleasure and they would end up in conflict.
So many men and women gave up looking for the G-spot. There has been
much written and talked about the G-spot in the last ten years, but we
find that our clients, even though they may have experimented from time
to time, usually after reading an article, still haven’t experienced all
that they thought might happen. Mostly this is because they haven’t
persisted for long enough or didn’t have the best knowledge and
practices of the art of awakening this sacred art of a woman’s body.
I hope the sexual secrets I offer here will change all that because
there is so much potential contained in this area for expanding a
woman’s sexual pleasure, for healing past insecurities and guilt or
negative residue attached to her sexuality, for her to move from one
orgasm to many orgasms in the one session and for her to experience
deeper, longer and more intense orgasms than she does now.
The G-spot was not first discovered by Dr Grafenberg, In fact it dates as far back as Ancient Tantric writings, which
offer much information on the existence of this area.
Many Tantric
teachers refer to this area as a sacred spot, and say the clitoris and
the G-spot are like the North and South Pole of the woman’s pleasure
centre or the yang and the yin of the second energy centre... the sexual
chakra. The location of the sacred spot varies considerably from woman
to woman. Sometimes it’s deeply set about 7–10cm (23/4–4in) inside the
yoni on the upper wall behind the pubic bone.
For others it is only
about 2.5cm (1in) inside the vagina. The area often feels ridged and the
spot often swells during sexual arousal. It can feel like a small pea
under your finger or sometimes much larger.
To give a woman pleasure through the sacred spot, don’t poke around the
yoni looking for a button, but stroke the whole sacred spot area. Only
stimulate the area after the woman has been highly sexually aroused or
perhaps after she has already had an orgasm.
Most women don’t get much
pleasure from this area until this happens and that’s why premature
searching around for the G-spot doesn’t work.
The first time you try to awaken the G-spot I strongly suggest you see
this as a pleasuring session rather than an orgasmic session. Orientate
your thoughts and intention towards pleasure, loving, healing and
awakening of the sacred spot rather than towards orgasm and performance
goals.
Once you can do this successfully and your woman is highly
charged by your stroking of the sacred spot area, then you can explore
its orgasmic potential.
Copyright © Kerry Riley 2005
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Kerry and Diane Riley were responsible for the introduction as teachers
of tantra sex education, tantra seminars and tantra workshops to
Australia beginng in 1986. Their contribution to sacred sexuality and
tantric relationships has been recognized internationally.
Kerry and his wife Diane founded the Australia School of Tantra, North
Sydney Australia. Over the past 15 years Kerry and Diane Riley have been
teachers of tantra workshops and seminars for singles and couples plus
giving individual couples consultations for beginners and intermediate
and advanced students.
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